So from a young age i was taught that men were strong as women were. I was raised by my mother and grandmother and i didn’t lack a thing. I went to what was considered a very good primary school in Kenya and had my education in private schools.
My mother was the best thing in my life and she passed away in 2003 .May her sweet soul rest in peace. After her death i was forced to go live with my father who then had another woman by his side, where they though i knew a lot and they couldn’t stand me questioning a lot of things they were used to do and so i was taken back to my grandmother. (God knows how excited i was) and so i was in the arms of a woman i still look up to.
Fast-forward to when i went to college, most of the men couldn’t stand me. they thought i was too loud and i spoke out what was in my mind too often, some men were daring and they said i will not get married and if i did i would control the poor guy. (i have yet to understand why they think so of me )truth be told this doesn’t bother me at all. i would rather stay single than be married by a person that considers my place to be the kitchen but forgets that his whole life / career is focused towards being able to get food that is initially prepared in the kitchen.
I have been looked down at several occasions just because i am a female human being but i refused to stay there. Whatever little chance i got, i used it to prove that i am not less of a human being because i am a woman. this has worked to my advantage most of the times but i hate and will forever hate the fact that everything i do has to be compared to what men do even the definition of who i am.
I am so lucky that the only social cultural effect that would have affect me basing on my tribe was a lack of kiamba (a piece of land usually divided among male ) but this tradition was cut off by my grandmother a long time ago and all of my aunties were given a portion of the land that was initially owned by my grandfather (who is also resting somewhere in Heaven) . but generally a lot of ladies are affected by a lot that is going on through the cultural activities in the society like we have the Maasai’s that do practice Female Genital mutilations , i have seen girls sent off to be married for three cows and so many others (i will write up a post on this sometimes later)
I completed college two years ago and i have put my strength (not all of it) on educating women on the power they have since our society has shown them otherwise since they were at a young age. I thought this would be like the simplest thing to do but it is not as i thought, it’s so hard to change the mindset of people however i am not giving up for i believe we can change the world one step at a time , one person at a time.
Most of my friends consider me a feminist which is what i am coz to me Equality between men and women is Heaven and i can’t wait for the day when we can achieve this at only a ratio of 40;60.
I however hate the favors that is shown to women, I believe that if a man can fix his car tires then a woman should do the same and this goes the other way round so if a woman can cook good chapati’s then a man should be able to do the same
What are your thoughts on this? i would love to hear your opinions
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